Parents play a very important role in our lives. A major part of our personality is shaped by our upbringing. What our parents think about us will always be important to us no matter what.
In our formative years, there are so many things we come across that we want to pursue. We want to do certain things that our parents don’t approve of.
No matter how crazy the options that we want to choose are, we should be given the right to make our own mistakes and choose our own battles. But most often than not, Indian parents tend to control a lot of our life aspects and it becomes very important to convince our them to let us do what we want. Their disapproval might be because of lack of information in that area or they might have been misled by their peers.
So, today I am going to tell you five useful tried and tested methods that will definitely help you convince your parents as far as making career choices is concerned.
1.Use information as your weapon
Collect all the information regarding the career you want to choose.
The jobs that are available in that field, the pay and some of the people who are succeeding in that profession, just know it all. Try to answer all the questions they might ask beforehand. If possible, look out for the people in that profession and talk to them. You can also use platforms like Quora and LinkedIn to contact people.
Trust me, only data will make you look sincere in front of them.
2.Do a substantial amount of the work beforehand
Start working in that field without their approval. Engage in internships, learn the ropes. Do the substantial amount of work before approaching them so that you have something to show for yourself.
Nothing can be achieved in this world without making efforts first. Take the initiative. You cannot expect to keep slacking and then expect them to do your bidding.
For example, if you want to become a writer, start a blog and when they question your sincerity or your level of interest, just show them your blog.
Say, you want to become a DJ, just upload some of your tracks on platforms like iTunes or SoundCloud and show them the response that you got. Actions speak louder than words.
All I am trying to say is that before convincing them there is one person you have to convince and that is ‘you’. For matters like taking admission in some course in certain college, jot down the points how that course will be important and useful to you.
3.Be mature while talking
Confidence can take you places. While explaining your career choice to your parents or for that matter anyone you should not be afraid. Your life is the only that is under your complete control.
So, be confident about the path you have chosen. Never joke about it. I come across people saying, “If I could have gathered the courage to tell my parents what I love I wouldn’t be stuck here”.
Make that choice for yourself. Be selfish about it.Be sincere about it. Be you. (I know. Cliche!)
4.Discuss it with your teachers first
Teachers are the people our parents’ trust. Moreover, teachers have seen our progress closely. They know us better when it comes to handling things in outside world. Discuss with the teacher you like and tell them all the information you have collected and how that career is not only your passion but your happiness too.
Note the points of objections raised by your teacher and try to rectify them before you finally discuss the matter with your parents. You can also ask your teacher to contribute to the discussion if your parents are a little intimidating to handle.
5.Never lose your calm, Never!
Lastly, never lose your calm. Be patient no matter what. Don’t shout or use foul words. Don’t say anything that you might regret later. If your parents don’t listen to you at all, try writing them a note.
Write everything you wanted to say, tell them that half-heartedly doing something that is not of your choice will only waste your time.
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